Abusive Relationship

Abusive

Everyone has heard the songs about how much love can hurt. But that does not mean physical harm. Someone who loves you should never abuse you. Healthy relationships involve respect, trust, and consideration for the other person.

Abuse can sometimes be mistaken for intense feelings of caring or concern. Sometimes abuse can even seem flattering. For instance when you thought that Ben and Sally really cared about each other, but actually excessive jealousy and controlling behavior are not signs of affection at all. Love involves respect and trust; it does not mean constantly worrying about the possible end of the relationship, or constantly worrying where he or she might be at a specific time.

Abuse can be physical, emotional, or sexual. Slapping, hitting, and kicking are forms of physical abuse that can occur in both romances and friendships. Emotional abuse, like teasing, bullying, and humiliating others, can be difficult to recognize because it doesn't leave any visible scars. Threats, intimidation, put-downs, and betrayal are all harmful forms of emotional abuse that can really hurt. One as of me has been put in a situation like this, for example people "black people" would always make fun of how I talk. Some say I talk white but I just say I talk proper and pronounce all the words that I am saying clearly enough for everyone one to understand me. When I was younger if I did not say the word correctly I was instructed to repeat the word ten times.

The first step is to realize that you have the right to be treated with respect and not be physically or emotionally harmed by another person. Signs of being involved in an abusive relationship are:

* harming you physically in any way, slapping, pushing, grabbing, shaking, smacking, kicking, and punching

* trying to control different aspects of your life, such as how you dress, who you hang out with, and what you say

* twisting the truth

* demanding to know where you are at all times

* constantly becoming jealous or angry when you want to spend time with your friends

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