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Have ever you been asked how to use temperament or personality type to deal with difficult behaviour? Perhaps you talked about Survival Games by Eve Delunas or Being in the Grip by Naomi Quenk. These do get to the psychological causes of unwanted behaviour, and they both have some specific suggestions that are worthwhile following.

While it is not type based, it might also be worthwhile looking at what these authors have to offer. Their material comes in three formats: a book, a video series, and an interactive CD-ROM. If one format doesn't work, another format is likely to get the message across to you or your clients.

I have read a number of books on dealing with difficult people, but didn't get very far with their suggestions because: 1. I didn't have very many difficult people in my life, and other than reading the books, didn't need to put it into practice; and 2. I had difficulty understanding the underlying structure of the theory on which it was based.

In Dealing With People . . . (DWP) the first thing the authors have you look for is intent of the behaviour. To understand intent, think of two axes: one is a passive-aggressive axis, and the other is a task-people axis. This creates four quadrants (the kinds of difficult people are in brackets): The Get It Done people (Sniper, Tank, and Know-it-all) are in the task-aggressive quadrant; the Get It Right people (Whiner, NO Person, and NOTHING Person) are in the task-passive quadrant; the Get Along (YES Person, MAYBE Person, and NOTHING Person) people in the people-passive quadrant; and the Get Appreciated people (Grenade, Sniper, and Think They Know It All Person) are in the people-aggressive quadrant. (The four quadrants are similar to the four temperaments, but the fit is far from exact.) When you understand the intent, you can better understand the behaviour.

The material is presented with lots of examples and humour. The humour is very evident in the video where the presentation is a combination of standup comedy and serious information. The video and the CD-ROM both have vignettes that are played the less effective way and the more effective way.

With an understanding of the structure of the quadrants and then using the specific behaviours, you can change how you react. Now you have a much better chance of getting the outcome you want.

This material is quite entertaining as well as informative. It would be good resource to have on hand to help your clients, or it would be useful basis for a workshop.

The Drs. Rick Brinkman and Rick Kirschner are Naturopathic Physicians who have extended their ideas about helping people to keep well to the business world. They are professional speakers that will come to give a talk. They can be reached at http://www.talknatural.com or http://rickbrinkman.com.

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Return to Home Page This book helps you learn how to disarm problem people, find common ground, and turn conflict into cooperation. In the last decade, technology has spawned a whole new breed of annoyances. From cell-phone chatters to email spammers to voice-mail hogs, life is now increasingly filled with even more difficult people. At best, such people make life stressful and unpleasant. At worst, they can keep you from achieving important goals. But it's fully within your power to bring out the best behavior in people who are at their worst.The proven, innovative approach in Dealing with Difficult People will help you to: identify 10 bothersome behaviors and deal successfully with each of them understand why people become difficult use sophisticated techniques to neutralise whining, negativity, attacks, tantrums and more and cultivate the nine take-charge skills that prevent people from becoming difficult. There's no reason to let unpleasant people get in the way of your performance in the workplace or in your life. With the help of these effective approaches to understanding and circumventing disruptive and annoying behavior, you can overcome the obstacles posed by difficult people in every phase of your life.

When difficult people disrupt a class it has a negative effect on the other learners. I try to address this as part of the open session and when this has failed, I ask the delegate to take it off line and talk to them during the coffee break to see if we can resolve the problem. This seems to work usually. One book I've found very useful is "Dealing with People you can't Stand" by Dr Rick Brinkman and Dr Rick Kirschner. It looks at lots of different types of people and how to develop your own strategy for dealing with them. Good luck!

I have a book entitled 'Dealing with Difficult Participants' by Bob Pike and Dave Arch. The book is very simplistic but gives you a superb insight to the types of difficult situations and some of the strategies and techniques for resolving them. The book is available from Creative Training Techniques Press or you can order from www.cttbobpike.com

Hope this helps . . .

Simon

Lois Raats , 22-Dec-03

article on difficult people

Hi Rachael,

You may already be doing this, but...what works for me is making sure every time I run a class that I spend a few minutes discussing what kind of class we want to have, what is helpful and what is harmful behaviour. It's also important to allow time for participants to connect with each other through icebreakers etc. I did a presentation a few years ago on difficult people and can send you a copy of it if you like.

All the best,

SIMON WHEAT , 22-Dec-03

Dealing with difficult participants - reference book

Hi Rachael . . .

I have a book entitled 'Dealing with Difficult Participants' by Bob Pike and Dave Arch. The book is very simplistic but gives you a superb insight to the types of difficult situations and some of the strategies and techniques for resolving them. The book is available from Creative Training Techniques Press or you can order from www.cttbobpike.com

Hope this helps . . .

Simon

SIMON WHEAT

I am a full time trainer, training volunteers for a charity. Recently I have been

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