Remember the Titans

REFLECTION JOURNAL 2

"I suppose leadership at one time meant muscles; but today it means getting along with people" Indira Ghandi pg.33.

Chapter three describes the different approaches people take to resolve conflict, to me respect and the desire to work through problems in a mature manner suggests resolve. Simply letting other people see how you handle certain situations brings respect and understanding. Walking the walk, in other words; is important for everyone.

The first approach is power-based and means a win and lose situation. The weak will submit to the

strong; the one with power. Naturally, this approach breeds resentments and I doubt it stimulates production. My parents use to get me to do things in this way, yielding their parental power and stating that" it was their house" or "because they said so" how do you argue with that. I have worked for people that refused to budge on anything. Their way was the

only way. No negotiating and no opinion was considered or appreciated. This type of employer does not respect or value you. I see this as a tug-of-war, the stronger will prevail. It is a show of

muscle only with no thought to the other person, but the win.

The rights based approach seems quite similar to power-based in as much as a winner or loser will be

determined. The difference is, " power-based approach involves a claim that a party should

prevail because it has the power to reward or punish, a rights-based approach involves a claim

that the party should prevail because such a conclusion is the correct one based on the law,

policy, or other framework on which the party relies" (pg. 35). I don't know why, but my husband comes to mind.

He believes he has rights just because he is a man.

Pertaining to the law, a third party decides, based on the law; the outcome that is right and just. In the

work force, we follow rules of conduct set in place by our employers for our benefit. No-one

should be harassed our treated badly by others' we are all just trying to pay the bills. If these

rules were absent; work would be a nightmare. Wrong and right is what motivates this approach.

The last approach is interest-based; it even sounds better than the other two. This approach, is based on

a mutually beneficial solution. Collaborating and meeting in the middle seems the best

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