How Chinese Men Understand Family Responsibility

How Chinese men understand family responsibility

When women complain about them don’t care of family, they reasonably defend as “we’ve made a deal that I’m the breadwinner and you are the homemaker”. When women stay at their little house, locked up by white wall and iron door, facing children’s crying, trivial and repetitive domestic labor, they travel through a wonderful world that fills with variety of temptations, dealing with great things one after another. Here, the word “they” refers to no other than our Chinese men, Chinese fathers and Chinese husbands.

Most Chinese fathers devote themselves to their work just like their entire responsibility towards family is only providing a stable source of income and guaranteeing a rich material life for other family numbers. That is exactly the most direct show of their simple and crude understanding of family responsibility.

In fact, Chinese men do value their relatives and their family. But what they really pay close attention to is family this concept itself, and may neglect the essence of home life that emotion is the core of a family. Although we cannot deny that money play an important role in our life, it is love that built up a real happy family. However, these kids’ dads choose to engage in various entertainments after working time with their partners, customers or even so-called fellows instead of going back home for dinner that prepared by their wives and chatting with their children what happened interesting during the day. That is because they believe only loser circle around over family-wife-children things.

What’s more, Chinese men tend to have a low level of participation in family life which is a kind of emotional enclosure. In a lately popular TV show, “Where are we going？Dad”, several super daddies could just be good representatives of the majority of Chinese dads. They barely cook for their kids; they don’t know how to make the simplest braid for their daughters; they even fail to distinguish which side is the outside of their sons’ little pants. That is not about survival pressure but a lack of emotional expression. Therefore Chinese men naturally dress it up into we are focusing on our career, we have no more energy for these insignificant trifles.

In addition, the pressure that they applied to themselves cannot be ignored as well the social expectation. They always feel that if they don’t fight for success, and get a high social and economic statue, they will defiantly lose their enviable asset. Therefore they cannot be recognized by society and even their wives and children will look down on them. Finally, these Chinese men have to make up their minds to be someone. They‘d rather dedicate themselves to their causes and forget the family than indulge in family lives and becoming unambitious and unpromising house-husbands. In their minds, there is no happiness without money; the economic base determines everything.

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